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Tough decisions

We all have to make them from time to time – tough decisions that is.

Usually there is a time limit on these choices because beyond a certain point in time, the choice of whether to go with Option A or B becomes moot.

There are also varying degrees of impact of one decision over another. Sometimes for some people, the selection of one path forward over another has impacts that radiate out from yourself to others.

I am faced with one of these choices right now and have been agonising over what to do for over a month now.

Note to family and friends… And Mom… I’m fine. It’s all good. This isn’t about anything bad or negative or anything like that. Chill.

This is a choice that, if I choose to take one path, there will be impacts on my time and energy, my family and perhaps even my career. It would be a commitment that I would not be able to back away from – if I were successful in achieving my goal that would be the preferred end result of my decision.

Later nights…. would have to stay up past 10 pm on some nights (??!!) Less time with the kids… though I would try to avoid this consequence as much as humanly possible. Likely wouldn’t have the spare energy to continue my climb up the corporate food chain… though I am kind of happy where I am right now.

The upside of choosing to take the challenge on over choosing the status quo is big. Little pecuniary advantage, but a huge thumbs up for my own personal goals and – if I am any good at it – my community.

The thing is that I’m getting to a point where I have to either fish or cut bait. And I’m having a hard time doing so. I am not normally like this; I tend to make hard choices fairly easily.

So, what do you do when faced with difficult decisions? Put them off as long as possible and then go with your gut? Do you have a hard-wried decision tree ingrained on your brain. Do you flip a coin?


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  1. Hehe 🙂

    I’ve often considered working on a path to senior management. The money is usually good, and if you want to make the big $ as a CEO soemwhere, that’s the ticket.

    But, I look at all the people I know who are senior managers, and I wouldn’t trade my life for theirs. There’s more to life than money, especially when you never have time to spend the money.

  2. XUP says:

    If you ask me, the fact that you’re dithering so long with this decision says that it’s a step you don’t really want to take when it comes right down to it. Perhaps you’re feeling some impetus to choose this option because of things you promised yourself or because you think it’s the right thing to do or because you’re getting a lot of encouragement to do it. But all those reasons you noted for not taking this step are very valid and very important in your life right now. It’s perhaps a grand idea in theory, but when you think of what it will mean in reality- all the ramifications – it must be very daunting. It’s a huge, huge commitment. Perhaps you could think of other ways you could make a difference that wouldn’t consume so much of your life? It doesn’t necessarily have to be an either/or situation does it?

  3. You want to be a city councillor… go for it. You can’t be any worse than the compelete fucktards that are in there now.

    1. trashee says:

      Um. Thanks for the, um, ringing endorsement, Squid-dude.
      But no, it’s not Councillor but an office of lower standing…

  4. Ken says:

    When I left my previous employer to move to where I am now, the question I asked myself: If it turned out to be a bad idea, would I and my family still be able to move on & survive? My answer was “Yes”, so I moved jobs.

    The other question I asked myself was “Will I be better off to take a different path?” Once again, the answer was “Yes”, so I moved jobs.

    Those are the questions you’ll have to ask yourself:
    – Will you be better off if you take the other path?
    – If it doesn’t work out, will you recover?

    The “better off” is obviously subjective because you have other considerations than just a paycheque and a work schedule.

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